Don't worry...I am there...

After visiting a friend admitted in a hospital, I was thinking is it my sympathy for her or was it my moral support to her? Is it going to help her getting well or it’s a gesture?

So, is this Sympathy or Empathy??

          Sympathy is when you share the feelings of another person. Sympathy is a feeling of care and concern for someone close,

with a wish to see him better off or happier.

Empathy is the experience of understanding another person's thoughts, feelings, and condition from his or her point of view, rather than from own.  Empathy is the helping behavior that comes from within, rather than  forced, so that people behave in a more compassionate manner. It’s empathy.

Hey, I am there.......

The term empathy generally refers to two main concepts.

·        Taking another person’s psychological perspective, imagining their thoughts, feelings, and their behaviors.

·        And experiencing of an emotional reaction to the other person’s situation.  It is the link between the two.

A key element of Emotional Intelligence, it is about connecting with people to inspire and empower their lives. Feeling of empathy is natural but we often don't express it.

Today life is not easy. Facing lot of competition, we must prove ourselves. There is stress of work, traffic situations, interpersonal relations.  It has become difficult to dream for a simple good life.  In fact, we can't escape from them. But if there is someone to be there with you, it becomes easy to face them, isn't it? The feeling of someone with you gives you strength to handle the odds.

Let's take that one step ...

Too often we underestimate the power of touch, smile or a listening ear. We disagree to its potential to turn the life around. But one step of yours and someone’s life will be better, I am sure.

So......

•  Do listen to them…

Listening is one of the most effective ways to express our empathy. Active listening requires three things

•  Listen in detail. Look into the speaker’s eyes.
• Reflect your emotional reaction as it is a key part of empathy. It helps the person better understand and regulate their own emotions. Also, their reactions help us regulate our own responses.
•  Express your behaviour. By this you are agreeing to their emotional state and helping them out to move forward with.
• Don’t be in a hurry to give judgement.

·        Speak to them….

• Conversation is the best way to solve problems.
•  It makes you comfortable and confident to speak.
•  The dialogue makes us feel free to share your views and feelings with no hesitation.
• Engage yourself in conversation with interest and try to make the person comfortable.
• The communication can be verbal or through facial expressions and body language

 Offer physical affection….

• A hug, holding a hand or a hand on a shoulder releases feel-good hormone.
•  It reduces pain and cause a calming sensation. Of course, this is a remedy for near and dear ones. A hug by stranger may cause stress.

·        Offer help ….

•   Every time it’s not the monetary help but may be psychological support.
•  Try to find out solution. This shows that you see what someone is going through and you want to make life easier for them.
• Offering help shows that you're willing to take time out of your day to do something for someone. Even offering the opportunity to help, can be an empathetic gesture.
• Tell a friend that if they need anything they can ask, opening the way for providing help and support.

So, start a dialogue, volunteer to provide help. Try to understand the person

and his feelings.

Let's walk a mile...

together we smile...

Let's overcome the barrier...

Holding and being with each other...

Fear...Face it!!

Today my friend sent me  a video about swimming. It showed how the scared ducklings follow their mother. They jumped in water and started swimming. This reminded me of my own struggles with the same. No matter how many times I tried, but could never learn it. Even encouragement from fellow learners (some as young as 4 year olds) didnt help.
All this got me thinking, what exactly was stopping me? Was it the fear of failure? Maybe maybe not... Whom and why should I prove? Its fine for me.

Fear is very useful to us as humans. It is a response to physical and emotional danger.  If we were not afraid, we couldn't protect ourselves from legitimate threats.
It focuses on areas of our lives which our instincts tell us needs our attention. It helps us to concentrate. Fear helps you to take precautions better than risks.But when you are not able to control it, its dangerous.

Everyone is afraid of something or the other. Like falling from height or failing in exam etc.Reading and listening to motivational videos or talks is of great help. But do we apply it?

There are many things that we fear or are afraid of. I guess the fear of failing is what tops the list or fear of rejection.
Kids are least bother about this as they don't understand the consequences. But as we grow, fear comes into existence.

If I like to do things my way, I will. I always wonder why do we need any approval. May be because we want acceptance by the society. May be we need people to be around. Fear of loneliness is not  handled by all. I am remembered for the things I do or the values I have. I want them to accept me as I am.
Fear is nothing but a state of mind.To overcome fear, keep working rather than only thinking. Better we try than only think. Thinking will not overcome fear, but action will.

Be convinced about what you do and I am sure the success will follow you.Always speak out your views when asked for. Be ready for the non acceptance.

Fear comes from uncertainty. If I am not wrong, what is there to worry about.

Change is the spice of life, but change only if you agree to.
Be brave. To be brave, doesn't mean have no fear, but trying to find the way through it. Be true to yourself and you will be happy. There is no illusion greater than fear. Be positive. Try to do things, which you feel, you can't. Fears we don't face becomes our limits.
Fear is ...
False Evidence appearing real.
So...
Face Everything And Rise.

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